Thoughts, Uncategorized, Writing

Who am I actually? (I’m baaack!)

 

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Hello everyone!

I feel like we’ve gotten into a really weird pattern… I kinda do this thing where I disappear from blogging for a while, realise how much I miss it then come back only to disappear yet again… yeah, this has been awful. I’m so sorry for my inconsistency! As said by Gabriella in the timeless high school musical movies, life keeps getting in the way….

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Positivity, Thoughts, Uncategorized

The Costanza Effect

So, do you know those days that just feel really, really super drab? Actually, it doesn’t even have to be a day. It could be a week, month, maybe even a year if you’re really unlucky. There’s just something about that feeling that creeps up on you and suddenly you don’t really want to go out and do new things. As someone who’s stayed relatively within her comfort zone for most her life, I can understand how easy it can be to just slide into a routine. There are no risks, no hidden dangers. You know that everything’s going to be OK because you’ve done it so many times before.

However, the side effect of this is something very treacherous indeed: boredom. Even though we like these activities, there’s only so long we can do them repeatedly before they get tiring. So what’s the best way to combat this? It might sound weird, but hear me out. What I’ve found really works is to think like George Costanza, and by this I don’t mean creating a fake business in order to sound important to people you don’t know (Vandelay Industries, I’m looking at you)! What I’m talking about is the episode where he decides to do the opposite of everything he’s used to. If you haven’t seen it I highly recommend you check it out, but the general gist of the episode is that by getting out of his comfort zone, George ended up feeling the best he’s felt in a long time.

So if you’re feeling a little dull, I suggest this: have Nandos instead of your usual Maccas. Take the bus home instead of the train. Wear your hair in a ponytail for the first time in what feels like ages. It might feel weird at first, but life is so much richer when you have new experiences. It’s like adding extra toppings to an already delicious ice cream sundae. You can see new things, meet new people and look at the world with different eyes. The only thing you need to do is channel your inner Costanza.

Happy opposite-ing!

Lots of love

-Daisy 🙂

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Make Your Own Magic

OK, time for a motivational blog post!

Something that I’ve seen time and time again in movies, TV shows and just stories in general is the tale of a girl who stumbles across everything that she wants (or needs) in life. Cinderella’s fairy godmother magically appeared out of nowhere in her time of need so that she could go to the ball, Tori just lucked into an audition for a prestigious arts school in the extremely popular Nickelodeon show ‘Victorious’ and Mia Thermopolis ended up getting the break she needed when her grandmother showed up one day with the news that she was a princess. ‘Good things come to those who wait’ seemed to be a recurring theme when I was growing up, and it didn’t take me long to start fully believing it. When I was younger, I used to not want to put myself out there because I thought that if people wanted to talk to me, they would. I didn’t want to embrace my talents or fully go after my passions because I was scared people would see me as being full of myself or showing off. I didn’t pursue the boys that I liked because I thought that they would eventually come to me. I had surrounded myself with so many fairytales that I began to believe in them, and the result was not good! At that time in my life, I allowed things to happen to me rather than going out and making things happen. I was passive, and as a result I allowed other people to decide on my happiness. It wasn’t about what I wanted, but rather whether or not other people wanted me, and that was an incredibly bad way of thinking!

It’s only now that I’ve realised that this isn’t the way I, or anyone else for that matter, should be living. I have found that, by not pursuing the things that I want I’m basically not being an active participant in my own life! The people who luck into what they want are few and far between. What I’ve found is that the real winners in life are the people who go out and work for it. We need to stop waiting for our ‘fairy godmothers’ to appear and make our own magic instead! So, I’d like to leave you with this message: if you want something, go for it with all of your heart. If you want to talk with that group of people, walk over and strike up a conversation. If you want to be a successful singer, start performing for anyone who’ll listen. If you like that boy, give him a call and ask HIM out. You don’t get much out of life if you’re sitting on the sidelines. So, I encourage you to take control and be defined by the choices that you make rather than those of others. Fairytales can happen, but only if you make them.

I hope you’re all having an amazing day!

Lots of Love

-Daisy 🙂

P.S. Sorry about posting this late! I’ve been super busy at the moment, but I’m trying my best to stay to the schedule! Hopefully Friday’s post will be up on time 😛

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Awards, Beauty, feminism, Music, Positivity, Thoughts

Post a Quote a Day Challenge Day #2

Take your make-up off/ Let your hair down/ Take a breath/ Look into the mirror, at yourself/ Don’t you like you?/ ‘Cause I like you

Do you guys remember when Colbie Calliat’s music video for ‘Try’ came out? I do, very clearly. I remember reading an article on Buzzfeed about it and a gif set from the video almost bringing me to tears! When I saw the full music video, though, I really started crying. At the time I didn’t know why I had gotten so emotional, but now when I look back on it I think that it was something to do with the fact that subconsciously I could strongly relate to the message of the song. I, like most girls, have felt this pressure growing up to adhere to society’s idea of ‘beautiful’. When I noticed that the boys in my year weren’t looking at me and the only person who called me pretty was my mum, I began to think that there was something wrong with me. I didn’t really have a problem with how I looked, but because other people didn’t approve of me I felt like I wasn’t good enough.

Of course, this idea I had was absolutely ridiculous! The only person I should have ever aimed to impress was myself, and that is why I love this quote so much. In this video Colbie isn’t saying that there’s anything wrong with wearing makeup, but rather you shouldn’t be wearing it as a mask to impress others. At the end of the day, although wearing makeup is really nice, you should be able to take a makeup wipe to your face, look in the mirror and think ‘hey, I am beautiful!’. It took me a while to get to that point, and it was difficult. Even now I have my ‘off’ days, but this song serves as a reminder to me that, even when I don’t feel like it’s possible, I am beautiful and I don’t need to try to be anything to impress anyone. Needless to say, I think that this video should be required viewing for all women!

Here it is. Get the tissues ready.

Ok, that’s all from me!

Today I nominate Dark Charm to take on this challenge 😛

I hope you guys are having an amazing day

Lots of love

-Daisy 🙂

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The Beauty of Having Goals

Now, I don’t think it would be unreasonable to say that at times I’m not the most driven person in the world. Heck, this statement probably applies to me on most days of the week! What I have found is that whenever I am asked to do something, whether it be big or small, I will almost always put it off. That is, of course, unless there is a deadline; in that case I will put it off until it is absolutely necessary (at times this has been the day that an assignment’s due!). Pair this with feeling uninspired and you have a recipe for disaster. Example: before the beginning of my most recent semester of university I put off buying my books for so long that I created a little bit of a problem for myself. I ended up attending my first tutorials with none of the required texts, forcing me to order them online and wait five weeks before they finally showed up. By that point, there was almost no stopping the snowball-like decline of my study motivation. Without the books I didn’t do the readings, and without the readings I was behind in my classes, and once I was behind I felt so out of it that I couldn’t be bothered fully catching up. It was an absolute catastrophe; a far cry from my hard-studying days of high school!

Therefore, as you can imagine, the mid-year break is something of a nightmare for me. Why? Because I have around two months where absolutely nothing is expected of me and I am free to do whatever I want.

In other words: NO GOALS!

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